Stress and Motherhood – the two go hand in hand. Sometimes it can’t be avoided. Okay, MOST of the time it can’t be avoided. But let’s be honest, sometimes we do it to ourselves.
Take me, for example. Every day I tell myself that as soon as the kids get off the bus, I will clean out their lunch boxes and get their lunches ready for the next day so that I don’t have to rush around the next morning. Yet every day, this does not happen. The next morning I rush around trying to put their lunch together while getting them up, dressed, and fed so they don’t miss the bus. Some days I even manage to get all of those things done.
This happens every day. Yet every evening I think to myself, “Okay, today I’m going to get ahead of the game and make my life easier tomorrow morning.” Maybe one day out of 60 I actually do, and it’s glorious! But the next day it’s back to making my life more stressful than it needs to be.
Undue Mom stress is especially rampant over the holiday season. For a lot of Moms out there, once Thanksgiving hits, it’s “stress and Motherhood” on steroids until the kids go back to school after Christmas break.
We stress about getting the perfect gifts for our kids, and getting gifts for the teachers and the bus drivers, and sending out Christmas cards, and mailing packages in time, and I already covered my feelings about the Elf on the Shelf.
All of this is intertwined with our regular, every day stuff. But here’s the thing. None of it really matters. Our kids will love whatever gift we get them, even if it’s not the perfect gift, because they’re kids and kids are generally easy to please. The teachers and the bus drivers would probably love nothing more than a hand made card from your child because just knowing that they are appreciated is better than another #1 Teacher mug (although a $5 Dunkin Donuts gift card probably wouldn’t hurt).
It’s not the end of the world if your Christmas cards don’t get to their recipients until after Christmas, if at all. If I don’t receive a card from someone, I just think, “They must be super busy,” IF I notice at all! I won’t blacklist someone from my Christmas card list if I don’t get a card from them, and I’m pretty sure no one else will either. And it won’t kill you if you forget to move that damn Elf for a few nights (I hope. I mean that thing looks like it could come to life and kill you, but it probably won’t).
Now, full disclosure, as I write this post, I’m procrastinating on doing some of the very things I’m talking about in this post. But I’m doing my best not to stress about any of it. So I guess what I’m saying is, if you know me and do not receive a Christmas card from me this year, now you know why, so Merry Christmas!
As for the rest of it, stress and Motherhood do go hand in hand, but you need to give yourself a break once in a while and try to enjoy it.