For those of you who have read my posts in the past, you know that I typically strive for humor. But over the last few days, I’ve had a hard time finding the funny. So this is going to be one of those “serious Mom” posts.
I am distraught, and afraid, and my heart aches. I am fearful of the world my children are growing up in. It’s not because Donald Trump is the new President of the United States of America; in fact, it has nothing to do with politics or politicians. It has everything to do with the complete and utter lack of human decency I have seen on a daily basis for the last year. It has everything to do with the vast number of my fellow Americans who seem to have forgotten one of the main rules we all learned as children, and teach to our own children – If you have nothing nice to say, then say nothing at all.
I’ve watched as nice, honest, hardworking and sweet people have been called racists and bigots for supporting Trump. I’ve seen Hillary and Bernie supporters called “libtards.” I’ve seen the term “butthurt” more times than anyone ever should (although I still don’t really know what it means).
Politics aside, I think that if everyone could agree to stop using the term “butthurt,” it would be a step in the right direction.
— the Mom TruthBomb (@momTruthBomb) January 20, 2017
I’ve seen people calling for tolerance, then join in on the bullying of a ten year-old child. I’ve heard people demanding that women stop being demeaned and be treated equally, then mock Hillary Clinton’s pants suits or Kellyanne Conway’s red hat. I’ve watched as people call for peace, then throw bricks or punches when they don’t get their way.
Really? Is this really the America in which we want our children to grow up? We can’t have it both ways. We can’t sit here and demand that that people act a certain way, or see things in certain light, then call them names or attack their children or lash out violently when their opinions don’t mesh with our own. We cannot say we believe in one thing so passionately, then turn around and do the complete opposite. We cannot tell our children to be kind and respectful, then be unkind and disrespectful. It doesn’t work that way.
Of course, no one is perfect. When I read some nasty comment from someone I disagree with, I have thoughts of writing some snarky, rude comment right back. But what would that accomplish? As I am constantly (and I mean constantly) telling my children when things don’t go their way, or someone says something they don’t like – all the whining, crying, and complaining in the world isn’t going to change things or make them better. So save your energy for something good.
Having conversations via social media has given us the gift of being able to edit and proofread our thoughts before anyone else has a chance to know what they are. Instead of blurting things out in a heated argument before thinking of the impact they might have, we actually get to type it and read it to make sure it’s something we really want to put out there. If it’s something you would be unhappy with your kids for saying, then don’t click “post.” Simple, right? One would think so. Perhaps if more people took advantage of this wonderful gift, there would be a little less hate going around.
I know I paint a grim picture, but it’s not all bad. I actually have seen many people write comments on articles they disagree with in a mature fashion. Even when they are attacked and called names after doing so (which unfortunately does happen) a good number of people always stay classy.
I also see people like Betty White using her celebrity to promote love instead of hate, and I see teachers doing things like this in the classroom. And I do everything I can to instill these values in my children, so that they grow up to be respectful and loving adults who are not afraid to peacefully stand up for what they believe in.
To all the people who give their opinions in a respectful manner, on all sides, I applaud you. While I didn’t feel the need to protest anything this past weekend, I love that the people who did, had (and continue to have) the right do so. And to all the people who did so peacefully, I thank you.
So let’s all keep voicing our opinions calmly, rationally, and civilly, so that we make America a place we are proud to raise our children. Let’s make America truly beautiful again, inside and out.